What would specific aspects of personality over all

[lily4567 (deleted)]

that mans (if you are womans) and womans (if you like mans) should have for your like?

[lakota7 (deleted)]

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`???? Explain me !!! Who is it !!!

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`I like like-minded people naturally attract each other. It does not mean they have to like the same things. It means that they think in the same kind of way. For example, if I use my heart and my mind together when I am experiencing something, I will attract someone who is that way, too.

So if I say, "Oh I would like a woman to be patient, understanding, kindhearted, loyal, responsible and is a good dancer." Then I should be that way, too. In other words, whatever I am inside myself is what I will attract.

:)

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`It's true

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`Many times some women say things like, "I was with Mr. Married, Mr. Still Lives With His Mother, Mr I Cant Commit To A Realtionship! When will I meet Mr. Right!" When I see things like that, it shows to me that the person who thinks like that is not emotionally healthy because they are looking for somebody to complete them.

And really, the only way to be complete is to do it yourself by coming to peace with your past difficulties so that you can learn from new difficulties that will come to you. And this will help you to enjoy the good times even more. And when you enjoy the good times even more, this is saving up healing energy for the future for yourself for when you go through a difficult time in the future. And this is how to maintain and nurture peace within yourself.

So if you live like that, you attract someone healthy, too. So you have to be whatever it is that you want to attract, because you are doing it all the time.

If a person only complains about their past failures, it means they are not at peace with it. So they will continue to attract future failures until they fix themselves.

Or something like that

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`I am agree with you

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`A lot of people focus only out outer appearances. They think that if they are with someone who is physically attractive, that everything else will be good. But that is not true. Usually people who focus only on physical attraction do not take the time to get to know the other person. And the reason is because, they do not know themselves, either. When they experience a difficulty, they either try to run away from it or deny it or ignore it and say nothing is wrong. But when they do that, the energy from that difficulty still remains in their bodies and will eventually make them physically sick, if they do not do anything about it. And they will attract the same kind of unhealthy person.

Just like difficulties come to every person, they also come to all relationships, as well. When a difficulty comes to an unhealthy relationship, they will react in the same way, as when a difficulty comes to them individually. They will either run away from it, deny it, ignore it and say that nothing is wrong. And this is not the way to attract "Mr. or Mrs. Right", because these kind of people are really "Mr. or Mrs Wrong". So naturally they will attract another "Mr. or Mrs Wrong"

Emotionally healthy people face their difficulties by expressing the emotions those experiences bring, as long as they do not hurt anyone, including themselves. Then they will bring in their minds to learn from that difficulty and make the most out of that situation. As they do this, the emotions from the difficulty will start to neutralize into peace. And they establish more peace within themselves, and they receive knowledge and wisdom from that experience, as well. And this is how they transform difficulties into learning experiences. They use both their heart and mind together in this process.

Another result is they develop more love inside themselves. And this is the way to attract a healthy partner, as that other partner will be the same way. And this is how emotionally healthy couples know that when a difficulty comes to their relationship, that in most cases, it will result in increased love for each other, after they learn from it and make the best of it. This is how emotionally healthy people continually fall in love with each other.

When you learn from your difficulties, you are able to enjoy your good times even more than before. Chocolate tastes sweeter, kisses are more exciting, and such Likewise, when you do not face your difficulties, you are not really able to fully enjoy your good times, either.

I do believe that physical attraction is important, but that is only the doorway. The actual relationship is the house behind that door. If you are emotionally healthy, you will walk through that door and into the house and take the time to know that person. This way you will discover if that person is beautiful on the inside or not.

However, if you are emotionally unhealthy, you will only focus on the physical attraction, and you will misinterpret the doorway as the relationship. So what happens is that you only stand in the doorway and never actually enter the house. Usually in these kind of relationships, one is like an oppressor and the other is like a victim. So as soon as a difficulty comes to this kind of relationship, the tendency is for the oppressor to blame the other person. And the other person will blame him-/herself.

Only focusing on physical attraction is judging a book by its cover. Sometimes books with older books are really exciting to read, like "The Master and Margarita" :)

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`Yes you have a good vision of that and the "Master and Margarita" to air to be a good book ! :)

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`Yes and in many editions of this book, the cover is not too appealing. But the story is the best I ever read in my life............ so far.

[lily4567 (deleted)]

`I will read !

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`I like to read it many times because each time it gets more exciting.

[chosnazzy (deleted)]

`And I am sure you will really like it because it is for really smart people like you.

[loveternal (deleted)]

I like the part where you say:

chosnazzy wrote: `.... the only way to be complete is to do it yourself by coming to peace with your past difficulties so that you can learn from new difficulties that will come to you. And this will help you to enjoy the good times even more. And when you enjoy the good times even more, this is saving up healing energy for the future for yourself for when you go through a difficult time in the future. And this is how to maintain and nurture peace within yourself.

So if you live like that, you attract someone healthy, too. So you have to be whatever it is that you want to attract, because you are doing it all the time.

If a person only complains about their past failures, it means they are not at peace with it. So they will continue to attract future failures until they fix themselves.

And I think something you said in another forum should be repeated here. And that is about when you are taking that time to get to know someone and how they think. It is also important to know how that potential partner views their past relationships. Are they really at peace with it? You can get a lot of information from their body language and their tone of voice, as they are speaking about it.

It is a good sign when someone has no emotional response while talking about their previous relationship, other than being grateful from learning from the experience.

[loveternal (deleted)]

`And some things I really do not like are when a man says things like. "Hey you should send me more photos of your body!"

Or, "I just want to take care of you", as if I am totally helpless. I work for my living and am totally capable of taking care of myself. Women are not all helpless.

And what I especially do not like is machos. It shows not only disrespect for women and others, but also to themselves. And that is not a good foundation for anything good, only bad.

:)